What Are We Signing Up For?
Sometimes we join groups to connect. Sometimes to make specific changes in the world – we join a cause.
And sometimes we sign up, not for one specific cause, and not even to connect with like-minded people, but to practice skills that strengthen our ability to move the dial on any cause. We join groups to practice ‘showing up’ in ways we hope will enable us to shift the status quo.
What kinds of things might we sign up to practice?
- New/informal/shared leadership in self-organizing, flatter contexts
- Inclusive & new forms of facilitation and process design
- Showing up more authentically
- Connecting across differences & through trauma
- Being in Inquiry more than is comfortable & using powerful questions more intentionally & effectively
- Engaging vulnerably & transparently
- Deep dialog
- Co-creation & deep collaboration
- Truth-telling in difficult contexts & from the minority perspective
- Disrupting subtle patterns of dominance
- Holding space
- Being a healing presence
In those instances, practicing new & different ways of ‘showing up’ is at least as important to us as the group’s stated purpose. They’re important practices because they’re generally proving to be more effective than old school debate & didactic lecturing. They’re key to the fundamental transformation we (most of us) seek. But doing so, in my experience & by my observation, (& by it’s very nature) creates disruption, often feels ‘off-point’, & opens one up to painful misinterpretation.
Practicing those new ways of showing up (ways that emerge from a different world-view), in the here-and-now, with THESE people, as opposed to pontificating in the abstract about the importance of the underlying concepts, or preaching to the choir about how THOSE people should be better at them – that’s challenging, vulnerable and often lonely work.
So, how can we make it easier on ourselves to do this deeper work?
How can we recognize and appreciate when others show up ‘in practice’, and help others recognize and appreciate when we do it?
How do we encourage & support one another to show up more deeply in our power-and paradigm-shifting practices?
That’s what I’m feeling ‘in inquiry’ about right now. That’s a practice I’d like to develop!